Nonduality is unbroken, and by that I mean that no matter what has happened to you in your life, there is a part of you that is unbroken. This part is dynamic and alive, and is actually the part that wants to be animating your life.
On the other hand, duality—all of our conditionings, all of our rules about how we should behave—these things are by nature always broken. Even if you manage to get it together for a short period of time where you’re living perfectly, it’s going to break because it can’t be permanently fixed.
The huge ideal we hold onto, of what we should be as human beings, is unrealistic. It can’t be done, so no matter how much you try, it’s going to constantly break. This is why we feel so broken.
But your actual nondual self is unbroken at all times. This is what we’re trying to access in the nondual search: what is this fully unbroken part of myself?
No matter what’s happened, you can still have a moment of relaxation where the worries fall away and the confusion falls away. These things fall away, and there’s this unbroken self animating your life. It’s the unbroken animation of you—your internal wisdom, your being, who you are—the unbroken life force.