You don’t wake up all by yourself. It’s the self that goes away, right? So, when the separate self is gone, our relationship to everything is really the only thing left. The spark of life within us, all that is, is relating. That is relationship. Is what’s left. This is why we can relax into it. Strain will always get you more and more separate. We’re taught to strain, but when we relax, we find ourselves.